Why Women Over 40 Struggle More During the Holidays

Why Women Over 40 Struggle More During the Holidays
Why Women Over 40 Struggle More During the Holidays

For many women in midlife, the holidays bring warmth, connection, and meaningful traditions. They can also bring something less talked about: fatigue, bloating, disrupted routines, and a sense that your body is not responding the way it used to.

If you’ve ever wondered why the holiday season feels harder now than it did a decade ago, you’re not imagining it. Women over 40 experience real physiological and hormonal changes that can make this time of year more challenging. And none of it is your fault.

At Skinny Seattle, we support women every day who feel this shift. Below, we explain the science behind why the holidays hit differently in midlife and how you can gently support your body through the season.

How Hormonal Changes Influence Holiday Stress

As estrogen and progesterone fluctuate in perimenopause and menopause, the body becomes more sensitive to stress. These hormones help regulate mood, metabolism, appetite, and sleep. When levels change, you may notice:

  • Greater overwhelm from holiday pressures
  • Stronger cravings
  • More difficulty bouncing back from stress
  • Shifts in digestion and energy

These experiences are common in midlife and are often tied to stress-hormone patterns we see in women who visit us. You can learn more about this pattern in our educational guide:
The Adrenal Fatigue + Weight Connection

Understanding your stress hormones is a first step toward feeling supported during this season.

When Holiday Eating Meets a Midlife Metabolism

Many women tell us, “I used to recover from holiday eating so quickly.” That experience is valid, and there are biological reasons for the shift.

A Slower Metabolic Response

Muscle mass naturally declines with age, which in turn lowers the metabolic rate. As a result, holiday foods or late nights can leave a deeper impact than they once did.

Blood Sugar Becomes More Sensitive

Midlife hormonal changes can make stabilizing blood sugar more challenging, which increases cravings and creates energy dips after meals.

Higher Inflammation Risk

Holiday foods such as sugar, dairy, alcohol, and processed snacks may trigger inflammation more easily, especially if your gut is already sensitive.

Your body isn’t resisting you, it’s responding to what it needs now.

The Emotional and Mental Load of the Season

Women often carry a significant share of the emotional and logistical responsibilities during the holidays:

  • Planning gatherings
  • Managing meals and shopping
  • Coordinating schedules
  • Caring for children or aging parents

This emotional load can intensify stress, especially during midlife hormone shifts. Many women feel “tired but wired,” a pattern we address often at Skinny Seattle.

Sleep Disruptions Make Everything Feel Harder

Sleep often changes after the age of 40 due to hormonal fluctuations. During the holidays, irregular schedules can make it even more challenging to get restorative sleep.

Poor sleep affects:

  • Appetite regulation
  • Cravings
  • Mood
  • Metabolic balance
  • Energy levels

Even one night of poor sleep can change how you feel the next day. None of this is a character flaw. It’s physiology.

Why Post-Holiday “Bounce Back” Is Slower Now

You are not imagining it—your body truly responds differently now. By January, many women are dealing with more than a few indulgent meals. You may also be experiencing:

  • Higher inflammation
  • Blood sugar fluctuations
  • Hormonal changes
  • Reduced sleep quality
  • Stress accumulation
  • Digestive disruption

This requires a more supportive, personalized approach rather than strict dieting.

Gentle, Supportive Strategies for the Holiday Season

These are simple practices many Skinny Seattle clients find helpful.

1. Start Meals with Protein and Fiber

This helps stabilize blood sugar and gently regulate cravings.

2. Stay Hydrated with Intention

Herbal teas, water, or electrolytes support digestion and help reduce bloating.

3. Add Micro-Moments of Calm

It doesn’t need to be long. Taking a few deep breaths, going for a short walk, or doing a stretch can help regulate cortisol levels.

4. Protect Your Sleep When You Can

Minor adjustments, such as earlier wind-down routines or reducing evening screen time, make a meaningful difference.

5. Let Go of Perfection

The holidays aren’t the time for rigid rules. Aim for nourishment, not restriction.

6. Listen to Your Body’s Needs

Checking in with yourself throughout the day helps you make choices from a place of compassion instead of pressure.

7. Seek Personalized Support When Needed

If you notice patterns like repeated bloating, fatigue, or weight changes, your body may be signaling deeper hormonal or metabolic needs.

Our personalized midlife programs explain this gentle approach here:
Personalized Weight Loss That Works for Women Over 40

A Midlife Story Many Women Relate To

One of our Skinny Seattle clients, a 63-year-old flight nurse, used to feel completely depleted after every holiday season. With shifts, stress, travel, and multiple family responsibilities, she assumed her exhaustion was “just aging.”

A personalized evaluation revealed inflammation, thyroid shifts, and blood sugar irregularities. After implementing a root-cause plan grounded in nourishment and recovery, she noticed improvements within weeks—better sleep, less joint discomfort, and more stable energy.

You’re Not Alone, and You’re Not Doing Anything Wrong

If the holidays feel more draining than they used to, there is a valid physiological reason. Midlife brings real changes in hormones, metabolism, and stress sensitivity.

At Skinny Seattle, we offer personalized, lab-informed support grounded in compassion and practical guidance. If you feel ready for a gentler, more supported season, we’re here to help.

Schedule your consultation today.

And if you’d like to understand exactly how our programs work, this overview walks you through each step with clarity and calm:
The Personalized Wellness Journey

Dr. Mary Klimek

About the Author

Dr. Mary Klimek, DC | Functional Health Practitioner

Dr. Mary Klimek, DC, is a Functional Health Practitioner at Skinny Seattle, focusing on lifestyle-based wellness, midlife hormone shifts, digestion, metabolic patterns, and symptom-driven coaching. She helps adults understand why their bodies change over time and provides guidance grounded in evidence-informed functional principles.

Her work centers on:

  • identifying lifestyle patterns that influence weight and energy
  • supporting clients through midlife transitions
  • simplifying nutrition and daily habits
  • guiding sustainable, long-term wellness strategies

Dr. Klimek brings years of clinical experience working with adults across the Eastside, including Bellevue, Kirkland, Redmond, and Issaquah.

Learn more about Skinny Seattle’s approach here:
https://skinnyseattle.com/about/